Help Yourself

If I told you I’ve been on a quest to make myself the best person possible this past year, would you judge me? How are you spending your spare time? I envy those who are already so connected with nature, family, religion or other passions and have found balance.

Me? Not so much. Every day is a struggle to stay on the right path. When I was diagnosed with cancer last year, it turned out to be a life-changing wake-up call. And when I really reflect on the life I’ve made up until now, some of it seems just too good to be true. Like, how did I do that?

Still, there are low points and they can’t be ignored.

As a way to help myself along in my personal development, I’ve begun to explore the many tools available online.

If you watch things like TED Talks, or really any videos on YouTube, you might have seen tons of commercials you can’t skip with a guy named Tai Lopez telling you that he went from living on a couch to buying a Lamborghini — and if you buy his online program, 67 Steps, your life will change for the better. A typical self-help guru, Lopez lures viewers in with a quick wit, convincing sales pitch and fast-grabbing buzzwords.

But I wasn’t sold. His first mistake was offering up his Snapchat so freely. After a few days of lurking his story, I saw that he was just an extremely egotistical, misogynistic, street-smart power player who can provide little-to-no value to my journey of self-fulfillment. Sure, he’s got great content out there — my favorite is his CliffsNotes interpretations of various self-help books — but you can get those for free by following his stories. But hey, everyone’s got a right to make their own success. I can’t knock the hustle.

If you’re looking to sign up for a self-help subscription with more value, I would recommend checking out Mark-Manson.net, who presents “Personal Development That Doesn’t Suck.” Manson writes great long-form essays about a range of topics to inspire health, wealth, love and happiness, presented in a down-to-earth way I can relate to.

What have I learned so far in my online quest for success? That pretty much none of it can be found externally. It all comes from within. While some of these personal development sites can have great benefits to help me lead the life I’m striving to live, they’re ultimately just tools. You have to be able to look inward and tap into all the abundant wealth and power that you already have.

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